For better or for worse, things are constantly changing. Not just the technology that surrounds us in our day to day lives, but everything from our environment to our social structures is undergoing a shift.
Men seem to be caught in the middle of this current shift happening.
Feminism has, of course, been on the rise. Women are entering the workforce these days and closing the wage gap in tremendous fashion. Women are more empowered, and free to take the actions that might have been frowned upon in the past.
But what about men?
Although less talked about, men have been forced to fit into certain views within our society.
Men are supposed to be tough, emotion-less, outgoing, high status, sports-playing alpha males with confidence in all things at all times. We know what we want, and we provide for others.
And is there anything wrong with that?
If that is you, then no, there is not really anything wrong with that. Be you.
The problem is that that is a small percentage of the male population.
Men are undergoing a transformation now that allows them to express a wider range of emotions, to be an introvert, or to be unsure sometimes.
Lots of people want their sense of fashion and style to boost their male ego. Sometimes we dress up to catch attention or to be perceived as higher status. Sometimes we dress the way we want to act- whether it is coming across as the boss, or as a guy enjoying a lazy Sunday.
Is the changing idea of masculinity a good thing then?
Being yourself is a good thing. And being the best version of yourself is the best thing. Your style should enhance that, and not make you something that you are not.
The changing idea of masculinity seems to be switching away from this idyllic, superman; and towards being comfortable being the ideal super-you.
Are you comfortable in your own skin?
Do you engage others in a way that is true to yourself?
Are you expressing, or repressing?
These are all good beacons to let you know whether you are on the right track or not.
But, I don’t think the ideal, masculine man is a passive one either. It is about being your best self, and not just yourself. Kind of like how to be courageous you have to feel fear and do it anyways; to be the perfect version of yourself you have to recognize your inner-you and push your boundaries.
We should be uncomfortable when we are growing. Do not avoid discomfort, so long as it is coming from a place of truth, and not from a place fear or lies or deception.
The modern masculine man moves towards this self-realization, which also leads you towards being somewhat of a non-conformist. The strength to be the true, unique you is the new male strength it seems.
Masculinity seems to have come from being a provider in our ancient roots. And, it seems that in the society we live in today, that we are sometimes at odds with what used to get us to that point, and how we get to that point today.
Find your values, and act accordingly. Grow. Help others grow.
Do you agree or disagree? Are men better for these types of actions, or worse?